60! Ass Grass and Duck Bites!

So being a parent you hear and say all kinds of things from/to your children.

There are those scary times when you hear nothing and go see what’s going on. Or you hear way too many giggles which is also suspect of child mischief.

There are many times that you have to keep a straight face but can’t.  Or simply have to walk away so they cannot see the fit of giggles you’re desperately trying to hide.

This week is off to a great start for such moments here in the Strongheart household.

Cecelia and Glenna asked how old they have to be before they can wear make up. I replied 16.

They heard 60! Who am I to correct this? I don’t wear it….don’t even own any so 60 seems totally acceptable to me. Maybe I’ll have to wear some when I turn 60 to drive that point home?

Glenna keeps asking if we can have “ass grass” and “achokes” for dinner. (Asparagus and artichokes)

I was cleaning up after dinner and kept hearing fits of giggles coming from the living room.  This is what I found

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They were listening to each other’s tummies digesting dinner.

Glenna still gets “duck bites” (goose bumps) whenever she gets cold. 

Cecelia was insanely excited Saturday when we went to the movies because now with her glasses she can actually see the screen. She exclaimed “MOM! I just LOVE my glasses!”

They love each other so much.

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Don’t get me wrong it’s not all mispronounced words and cute photo opportunities.  They fight and argue and torment each other also.

Sometimes I even notice Cecelia doing things just to piss her sister off. And vice versa.

Last night we had a pretty exciting first here. Cecelia asked for something. ..I don’t recall what. I said no and she asked “Why?” She’s never done that before!

There’s arguments,  giggles,  yelling, mischievous whispering.  They make me smile every day.

So remember if we ever meet in real life it’s 60! Ass grass! And duck bites!

LOL Just had to share these…they’re too good to not share.

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Easter Fun!

I treated the girls to a ride on the Easter Train. We had a blast! Followed by a night at a hotel with an evening in the pool & hot tub. Might have to do another train event in the future. ..that was fun!

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Waiting to go on the train

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All aboard!

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Eek the Easter Bunny!

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Cecelia won the color contest

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Glenna won the coloring contest

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Well earned peach sangria after a successful day!

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What’s up?

Well I’ll be the first to admit that blogging hasn’t been at the top of my to do list.

Life has been busy. Last month I got hurt at work and have been stuck recuperating for nearly 7 weeks. Tried to stop my classroom door during a wind storm and hyper extended my left elbow. Tore a tendon in my elbow and numerous other small tears and general soreness. Even my shoulder, neck and side were affected.

It’s been a long slow recovery. But I’m hoping I’ll be able to return to work within the next couple of weeks.  In the meantime Cecelia overcame her immense fear and started seeing a new pediatrician. 

And today she went to the eye doctor and got glasses. We’ve got special plans for this Easter weekend….I’ll share pictures then. Here are a few catch up pics

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K-taped arm

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Cecelia decided her arm was hurt too…sympathy pains

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Reading together

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Playing out

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Excited to get to drive to Anchorage

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First day of spring break treat ….breakfast out.

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More playing out

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More K-tape

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Whatcha drawing Cecelia? A rainbow light saber!

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Organic frozen veggies make great ice packs!

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Mmmm Glenn a discovered she loves artichokes!

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This is Cecelia’s baby polar bear and she loves to take pictures of her.

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Cecelia finally remembered to get everyone utensils when setting the table!

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Relaxing after the drive to Anchorage

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Enjoying the pool

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Cecelia with her first pair of glasses ( got her transitions lenses so she doesn’t need sunglasses now)

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Dinner out while in Anchorage

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Last day of Spring Break…first day of Spring

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“Shoveling snow” NOT what I thought would be on my to do list for the last day of spring break/first day of spring😦

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Autism and puberty

Last summer….it all began.

Sigh…because you know puberty isn’t already hard enough for neurotypical children ooh no mother nature decided to bless Cecelia by starting up those hormones at 7 years old…well and into 8 as her birthday is in the summer.

The hormones kicked in and things are developing.  She’s become an unpredictable walking 100 lb emotional disaster area.  Weepy, obstinate,  clingy,  hypersensitive,  loud, bossy, opinionated,  defiant little creature.

I knew hormones would start brewing with puberty but it didn’t occur to me that her hormone shifts (premenstruation) would sinc with mine.  Because when you’re a single mom dealing with “Aunt Flow” visiting with PMS and crampy bitchiness THAT is the perfect time to have a pubescent autistic daughter get all hormonal and emotional.

Truly…why not? Talk about patience trying!

At first I was in denial.  No surely it’s too soon! She’s only 8! She’s just getting a little pudgy…and it happens to be centered in her chest! Yeah! Yeah!  That’s it!!! Oh our life’s so busy…just pretend it’s not happening. ..if I ignore it…it’ll go away….

NOT! Things are still growing,  her hormones aren’t stopping. Time to face reality. ..puberty is here.

Sigh…

Okay time to acknowledge what’s happening.  Can’t deny it…ignoring isn’t working…pretending to be too busy isn’t making things stop.

Time to plan.  How does one prepare an autistic 8 year old girl for puberty and menstruation? 

Started off doing some online research.  Lots of reading, lots of thinking. Lots of talking to Cecelia’s “team” (teachers, therapists, staff etc.)

We’re working on social stories. I’m openly talking about menstruation and no longer hiding mine.  I do a lot of talking about what’s going on while I’m menstruating.  I know, I know…TMI?

But if I don’t talk about it…who will? We’re going to start practice periods once a month now. Originally I’d thought a preset schedule was the way to go. Set up 3 days a month and have a practice period.

But life’s not that way. Aunt Flow comes when she comes and Cecelia needs to be prepared to deal with periods in all situations.  At schools, home, therapies,  after school etc. 

So I’ve nixed the schedule and will make them happen to occur across the board so we’re all helping her and getting practice before the fateful day arrives.

Three days of practice changing pads every two hours, spontaneous texts saying she’s had a leak and needs to change her clothes. Sigh…

I meant to start over the holiday break but wanted to make sure her entire team was on board and all questions are answered.

I’d love to hear how other parents of autistic girls have dealt with this. Suggestions? Thoughts?

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Holidays

Well today is our last day of our holiday break. It’s been a great break with lots of road trips and running around wasting gas….I mean enjoying our new SUV.

We’re enjoying this break to the fullest as we’re on a weekend away in Anchorage. I received a gift certificate for a free night at our favorite hotel so I surprised the girls yesterday and drove up.

Here are a few pictures of this holiday season.  Hope y’all have had a great holiday also!

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Wet to Anchorage just to enjoy our free hotel stay. Spent a lot of time in the pool and enjoying room service😉

Bought Glenna a life vest so now she no longer sinks like a rock. She’s very happy in the pool now and not so nervous.

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Convinced the girls that Santa enjoyed a piece of cake and rest at our house since he knew he didn’t have to bring us any presents because he’d already helped us get a new SUV and couch.

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Love our new SUV! Do nice having the freedom to drive now.

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Glenna and I painting ceramics. Some nice time just her and I while Cecelia wad at respite.

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Perseverance

I dub thee “Perseverance”

per·se·ver·ance
ˌpərsəˈvirəns/
noun
steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.

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Percy for short. Fitting don’t ya think? 

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