Autism, puberty, the opposite sex

So guess what? Go ahead and guess….you’ll never guess it!

Ready? ….I’m not! Cecelia has her first ever crush! On a boy in her PE, Music and library classes. It started last week, her aide noticed her staring at him during music and library.  Then during PE she’s been trying to get his attention. 

And how does Cecelia try to get his attention? She struggles with her social skills and has no impulse control when it comes to boundaries. So she tries to get him to give her compliments…. demands them I imagine. 

For example: “Hi Daniel, look at Cece pretty dress. Daniel say Cece pretty dress!” 

I guess Daniel is a sweetheart and very patient and understanding with Cecelia.  Well he was until Cecelia decided he wasn’t paying enough attention to her yesterday so she threw a ball at him. Hitting him in the head. 

So the teacher called me because she was not sure how to approach this. I told her I’d go talk with Cecelia’s Occupational Therapist. Which I did yesterday.  

The plan is as follows:

1. Catch and praise Cecelia when she makes appropriate social interactions. 

2. OT is making her a social story about boundaries. 

3. We’ll each have a small (hand sized) laminated stop sign to act as a visual aide to reinforce our firm directions when asking her to stop or telling her NO! She’s agreeing to stop and then does things anyway.

4. Model exaggerated appropriate social interactions acknowledging boundaries.  

5. Beat any boy with a stick that shows interest in my child.

6. Know that this day is coming for Glenna in the not too far off future so I may need to look into buying a shot gun!

7. Realize it’s okay to be pissed off at my husband for dying and leaving me to deal with this on my own!!!!!!!!!!!! Grrrrr

8. Acknowledge that my girls are growing up and I cannot stop it. Sigh

9. Repeat steps 1-8, educate all of Cecelia’s team on this plan  (well steps 1-4 anyway)

10. Keep tabs and check in with the team to see how it’s going.

11. Ask for thoughts and prayers LOL

Anyone out there gone through this with their children on the spectrum? I’d love to hear what you went through and what you did to help your child.


About annstrongheart

About me...hmmm where to start. I'm a proud single/widowed mom of two beautiful girls who currently works full time for the local Tribe. Life. Is. AWESOME!
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